Writers, Check Out These Sites

Here are two sites you should definitely check:

CRWROPPS: I can never remember what the letters stand for, but it's worth subscribing to their email information. You will hear from them almost daily, with news of writing contests, writers' positions, magazines, chapbook publishers, etc. seeking submissions.

Pixelhose: This is new for me, but a writing friend entered one of their contests, which are judged by readers along with their staff. You get emails with the finalists' entries and can "like" them if you choose. Sounds worthwhile.

Any other great sites you'd like to mention? If so,

Quote for the Week

If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. That is where they should be. Now put foundations under them.
Henry David Thoreau

Creeping Through Horseradish

To a widow, especially a new one, the whole world is widowhood.

Grocery shopping: The first time you're at the supermarket, it hits you. You're shopping for one now. How much to buy? All those other carts you pass are so full. Yours, not so full. And do you want to cook anyway? Your new world doesn't lend itself to gourmet food, new recipes, Everything tastes like cardboard. Maybe you'll buy a few frozen dinners and be done with it. Or stop at McDonalds and pick up a Happy Meal (There's an oxymoron for you. Meals are no longer happy when you're eating alone). But wait. Frozen dinner and fast food, Happy Meal or Whopper, will just make you feel more alone. Who knew sitting across the table from someone could mean so much? You never gave it much thought when it was an everyday occurrence.

Going to bed: Another decision. Stay on "your" side, move to the middle, sleep on "his" side because maybe you'll feel closer to him that way? Personally, I've never moved an inch away from my side.

Everything in your life seems suddenly connected to your new status. The toilet seat is always down now. You can't fasten a favorite necklace. I once woke a neighbor because I couldn't unfasten one. My burglar alarm once started beeping because its battery was low. Even with a ladder, I couldn't reach it. I swallowed my pride, marched across the street and introduced myself to a new neighbor. I hadn't met her yet but I'd noticed she was tall.

You see a couple standing shouler to shoulder in line at the movies or an elderly couple strolling hand in hand toward the park. A stab of pain and envy hits you. Why couldn't that be you and your husband? Why don't you belong to someone, with someone any more?

Those people at your office or in your book club,complaining about their spouses, they don't realize how lucky they are. Or how their complaints hurt. You want to tell them, but you keep quiet. They wouldn't understand.

But gradually some of the pain dissipates, maybe after months or years. Oh, it still comes back at time, surprising you with its intensity. You hear a song, pass a restaurant you used to love, see a couple you used to go out with, but they don't include you any more.

But you've begun to make a new life. Not because you want to, but because you must. Another Yiddish proverb says, "When one must, one can," and you've taken it to heart. New friends, new interests, bigger fasteners put on those old necklaces. You struggle out of the horseradish, and suddenly you can see the sky.

Quote for the Week

I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all, I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.
Agatha Christie

Still Accepting Submissions for Anthology on Widowhood

Silver Boomer Books has extended their reading period for submissions to On Our Own, an anthology about the widowhood experience, to March 31. Both prose and poetry are welcome. We've received lots of good submissions but we're a little low on ones about widows/widowers who've been successful as "survivors" and learned to manage on their own (even though it's certainly no one's choice). Some of the submissions we've received have made me cry; others have made me laugh; still others have inspired me to work harder at survivorship. If you have questions, let me know in the Comments section.

My blog refuses to allow me to do links. It says it will, but it's lying. So here is the website for Silver Boomers. www.silverboomerbooks.com. Go there and click on Call for Submissions for more info

Quote for the Week

Joey Adams
May all your troubles last as long as your New Year's resolutions!

Thoughts for the New Year: Your Pie Chart of Life

Happy New Year, one and all. May 2012 be a year of peace and joy and good health.

Several days ago an article appeared in the op/ed section of the Houston Chronicle. It reminded us that as a new year begins, we tend to think over our financial status. Have we made sound investments? Are we diversified?

But, the authors point out, we should also be assessing our "life porfolios." They, too, should be diversified. The authors suggest we make a pie chart of the five most important areas of our lives:
family
work
community
health
spirituality

How does the chart look? Is it balanced? We might be surprised to see that only 2 percent of our life is devoted to health and exercise. Do we focus all our energies on the work section, leaving little time for family or community?

It's a new year. We can make a new start and resolve that by next year we'll lead a more balanced life. By next year our life portfolio, our pie chart, can show a change--more space for community or spirituality, those areas that we put off for the future. We can focus on things we've always wanted to do but put off for "someday." Make that someday "now."