Wednesday, December 15, 2010
I'm not a doctor and probably most of you aren't either, so why am I featuring this book? Well, because in the Forward to this book, Dr. Ken Mapes suggests that these 12 secrets are applicable to everyone, whatever their roles in life. Everyone, he says, can take these rules to heart and become a healer.
Here, then are Dr. Hatlitzel's 12 rules along with my comments on some of them:
1. Start your day in silence. Easy for me; I'm alone. And I don't enjoy morning noise. But he suggests you take a few minutes to close your eyes, relax and enjoy the quiet. That calm feeling will be with you as you move through your day.
2. Listen. It's hard, isn't it, to really listen to others, but often it's the greatest gift we can give.
3. Take time for others. Hablitzel suggests you should never look at your watch during an encounter with someone.
4. Treat everyone as though they were friend or family.
5. Remember the power of touch. For those of us who are widowed, we know the pain of the lack of touch. Even a handshake or a pat on the shoulder can bring healing and joy to someone.
6. Forget your ego. He talks about the arrogance of some professionals. During Ralph's hospital stay we met many of them but we also met some of the most compassionate doctors and nurses. Whatever your job, keep your ego out of it.
7. Dare to believe in miracles, especially true for doctors and other health professionals.
8. Embrace the unknown. Don't be afraid to say, "I don't know" when you really don't. No one has an answer for everything.
9. Be alert for energy. Negative thoughts lower your energy, so try to be positive when dealing with others.
10.Trust your intuition.
11. Treat each encounter as if it were your last. Make it count.
12. End your day with silence. I often fall asleep with the TV on--not a good idea according to Hablitzel. We're exposed to way too much noise in our lives. Turn the volume down.
If we use these secrets when we interact with others, won't we also help heal ourselves?